Selling a product, are fitted with qualities where the marketing is done as the product is well known what it is.
Now a service, is somewhat different in the notion of, what it is.
If I would define what I sell its consistency.
Eyebrows might go up, and the question mark forms, hum heh what do you mean, consistency?
Many teaches to how to fix things in how to handle life and stuff that comes up, or to teach you to be prepared to deal with things as they come along.
That is nice, and makes it definitely easier to do and handle stuff.
Our brain, or evolution have set us with a brain that is divided, its easy to influence someone, to let them change their beliefs and perceptions of life, not many people stay consistent.
When people are consistent, they have this thing called ontology, a specific set, of nuances where the expressions they have in the body language, and obviously in their expression towards observation from others, they simply, is consistent as they are, some might say they are trustworthy in that consistency as they are always the same.
Now, since people like to live in causality and the life of reactions, instead of consistent expressions I understand why its hard to get it.
As, the message sent, is not the message received, even when it is.
If I tell you you look fantastic, and I really do mean it, many don’t take that directly, as it is, the message, but alter that, some call that process a NLP one when generalizations, deletions and distortions happens in the semantic forms.
But that isn’t really exactly true, and NLP is wrong about that one, they Grinder and Bandler did a huge error when developing NLP and the same error exist in psychology as they actually model the development what people did in related fields to achieve results.
This is called excellence, where an individual has achieved a better result, than the average, so this individual uses an approach that allows him/her to be better in regard to the result achieved compared to others in the field, which then was distilled and modeled, to produce a formula called a Model, to teach the patterns to achieve the same results.
So, when the message sent, you look fantastic, is received, it doesn’t end in the same format as it was sent. Now, people having a hard time with irony, might find the above somewhat eyeopening as it explains the lack of understanding irony.
Each time we send a message as the above, the individual much likely will do a comparison.
Now, that is one of the pillars I sell, the RBIm approach allows someone to map and understands the comparisons, and how to deal with them on a structural level and not a process one as NLP does it or NHR/DHE/New code NLP etc…
The comparison is the fluid reception people have to deal with things that happens, instead of being consistent, they shift their stuff all the time to meet a specific comparison.
Now, that is a good thing some think when we talk social interactions, being such adjustable must really be good in social competence, and it might look like that, but then your only matching and mirroring the things that goes on from those you meet, not showing yourself.
NLP allows you to be a camelont, hiding, matching and mirroring, people to make them like you, but basically they just become like you as you match them and show them how they are.
You might come to believe you show them who you are or how well you create rapport, but basically you just mirrored those patterns they have, so they like those, not what your doing.
So, using NLP you can be a really good camelont, but basically, you a flawed impression for those involved and that is why NLP was called out being a tool of influence called manipulation.
Most people have no real defense to that, if you match and mirror a girls dreams of a white knight, its easy to get them, doing your bidding, but then later on, you must keep this up indefinitely, as they fall for the dream, not you.
Being consistent, is the same level that Arnold Schwarzenegger, Robert Redford, Bruce Willis, etc..that they might be good actors, but they basically, also the same time are consistent, within a specific set of expressions.
Now, this also builds beliefs and causality, that even if your really good, the audience wants you in the same role, that did happen to the gangster role played by Cagney in public enemy from 1931.
That role made him definitely for the public, the nr1 in such movies.
And that is the minefield we all wander on, the ability to understand that we do walk on such fields, allow us to separate and keep the differences between consistency or fluid behaviors from the source they arrive from.
Being consistent, is something that cut across several context, it isn’t a generalization directly as much as it is a behavioral response. Now, if all the words we can use are 3, as generalization, distortion and deletion we also leave out other nuances, that allow us to arise above such petty claims NLP does.
Semantics are important to a degree, its how we can communicate to one another, and get a message across, if we also the same time understand, the message sent, seldom is the message received.
As I did the workshop, some people noted, but this is what You write about I your blog?
Yes, expecting anything different?
Well, yea….
So, even when reading this blog, and maybe enjoy, like or dislike etc…the impact this has in real interaction is much different, and I understand that, but I am still doing what I wrote about here, I don’t change, my approach when teaching, I still teach, find the future experience, map the NOTNLP Concept as you do that, elicit this, identify with it, and as this is going on people might object or make excuses, and then we tell them we ain’t doing changes to you or your stuff.
So, as I write about that, that is what I do, when teaching a workshop, as I am consistent there, but people obviously take what I write, compare that to what they know, which obviously, isn’t the same I teach, and they suddenly become surprised?
Its like telling people, well, what if you kissed your spouse, and every time you did that, it would be like the very first kiss, each and every time you did it?
The brain, makes habits which every drug addict knows, each time they tried the drug for the first time, they get a extra boost, it felt much better then later as they tried in vain to feel the same as they did the very first time.
Habits are like that, it dull our senses, as what we do, become generalized, and allow us to slip into a blanket of foggy slippy perceptions.
We start to believe this is life.
And then, we can allow a sensation, as being fresh and new each and every time, and never let the experience, being anything else than it is, new and fresh forever.
Now, this for a drug addict might seem as good news and if they still want to do drugs after what I taught isn’t that likely, but then again that is me.
Now, people in NLP cant do that, new and fresh as they all become succumb to the habits, they get dull their senses wanders off.
They cant understand my approach as it is, melted into their own understandings their own comparisons.
As I did the workshop with Joseph back in 2003, and as I run this I noted it started a process, in how I understand, what I been taught and naturally, this allowed me to stop doing NLP and hypnosis, and I don’t do such anymore as they are to slow for me.
I don’t do DHE or NHR or other such, as those approaches also, is about fixing stuff.
DHE is about design, to design mental tools, to do your bidding but then again, its a engineers approach to fix life, wouldn’t you agree?
You got to wonder what bandler needs fixing still after 40+ years.
So, for me, consistency is what I offer, across context, no matter where you are, at home at work, and having the ability to do so, fresh and new every time, no matter the time involved, is something that is possible to learn, so each time, you eat breakfast, kiss your spouse, its all new and fresh.
For most, its like that for a time, maybe just once, and then for some, its like that, forever.
That for me is worth the work I done as far, as it is all fresh and new.
Still 15+ years down the road.
Peter Jackson, said after doing the lord of the rings and as he did those, that he would love to be able to watch the movie fresh and new due to him being involved with the movies, had to see each scene hundreds of times.
Many complain about my posts being long and reading them is so, well boring for some, and they seldom know or thinks about me who not just write them but also reads them more than once.
I can write, in many different ways, but this, way is consistent and been consistent for all the years I been on the net.
I exposed Gabe Guerrero a NLP trainer on the net, I exposed Micheal hall the meta-states guy as being not consistent to what they taught.
So much for their messages.
Oliver is doing hopefully a small audio interview with me this Friday if the tech works and it will be online later on his website if all works out.
Instead of reading, you at least could hear some of this from the horses mouth.
Until then, why not rent the movie, 50 first dates with Adam Sandler and Drew Barrymoore?
/Robert Johansson
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